" I explain that the more I remain at home base , the less hazard I would have to find a well - paying job should we ever divorce because I would have less virtue , while he would stay making more money each year . "
Depending on who you are, being a stay-at-home mom can bring fulfillment or dread, and a question of how you can sustain yourself if your marriage ever leads to divorce.
And that was exactly the case for redditorStatus-Mention6793(or Status for short), who sought advice on how to handle her husband’s request that she stay home with their children. Here’s thestory: “My husband and I (both 35) have been married for six years, and we have two children together and one on the way. He said that he wanted me to be a housewife and stop working.”
" I was very unbalanced by that , but he explain that it was good for our family and children since he can afford a very unspoilt living . "
“After a few weeks of thinking, I told him that I would agree but only if I get half of his company. He was surprised by this, but I explained further that the more I stay at home, the less chance I would have to find a well-paying job should we ever divorce because I would have less merits, while he would stay making more money each year.”
" So I require half of the company . If we never split up , which is the finish of all spousal relationship , then it would n’t weigh . But , should it end , it would be the terms of me stay home and raising our children so he could be less disturbed and try out ( his words , that he would be less anxious and try out if he know they were with me rather than with alien in day care or nannies ) .
When I told my friends , they called me the asshole . My best supporter was very wild and holler me disgusting . So , I am take aback a small . "
After reading her post, I could not find a single comment from someone who thought she was being unreasonable.
" Not the cocksucker and you should n’t bend on this , " one anonymous substance abuser wrote . " You have as much a right hand to a secure financial future as he does . If he wo n’t do this , he ca n’t open you , or he is look to make a power instability that puts you at a disadvantage . "
— Anonymous
“Not the asshole,” userHi_Im_Dadbotagreed. “He’s asking you to make a sacrifice for the sake of the company, so equity in the company is appropriate compensation for this.”
" If you never get disjoint , then no worries . If you do , then the surplus attention he ’s able-bodied to give to the business due to your taking on the domestic part benefits both of you as , as it should . "
Emphasizing this point, other couples who experienced a similar situation shared how they chose to navigate it:
" I gave my married woman 49 % . I still desire to work the business my way , but I understood her needs . Sold it 10 twelvemonth ago and we ’re married 40 years this year , " userdaveymcmanwrote .
“My ex wanted a housewife, and I stayed home, primarily because I had a medically fragile infant. He was so shocked by how the judge divided our property when he divorced me during his midlife crisis,” an anonymous user shared.
" He got the business , and I got everything else , a home and fully fund retreat . Most women in aged divorce end up in poorness . Never give up your financial independence for a military personnel . "
Outside of those life experiences, a chunk of readers couldn’t help but pause over the wife’s friends who said she was wrong to ask for a stake in the company.
" Your friends sound awful , " userDeLuca9said . " I mean , let me write as I interpret your one ally who call you repelling . They basically say you do n’t deserve shit . Honestly do n’t budge on this . You merit just as much security as he does . Be cautious . Seek outside counsel . That ’s a unhinged sacrifice and you need new admirer . "
Another exploiter , Ms_SkyNet , considered , " Maybe your best friend is jealous . "
Regardless of whatever the case may be, userpitagrapeaptly put, “Your friends can think whatever they want; what matters is what your husband thinks and does.”
TRUE !
In the end, Status shared that she and her husband took advice directly out of the comment section and split the company 51/49.
