" It set out with the gym . Then the beach and what to wear in populace in the future . It is not your job to stave off give birth a life story and contact lens with other masses to make him feel secure . "
Relationships are all about compromise, and on a recent episode ofSeasoned Sessions,we came across a post that had us asking an ever-present relationship question: is this a boundary or is it just a red flag?
The post in question was titled:AITA for refusing to switch to an all-women gym?So now we want to know what you think.
The poster began by explaining that she has been dating her partner Ben for three months, and he began expressing discomfort with her going to a mixed gender gym.
Ben also noted that his ex-girlfriend switched gyms for him, but the poster explained her perspective: she has a great routine, workout buddies, and feels comfortable at her gym.
We had a pretty strong reaction to this – we both thought this request would be the beginning of a slippery (controlling) slope, and OP would probably be better off breaking up with him.
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And the internet was pretty unanimous in that same opinion: Ben’s request isn’t normal, and is very much a red flag.
" Honestly , it seems a little controlling . If you ’re happy at your gym and not doing anything wrong , there ’s no reason to switch . His insecurity is his job , not yours . "
u / prettyy_sofiaaa
" No , you do n’t need to sacrifice your health modus operandi to quell his fragile self and insecurity . No , that is not a " normal affair adult female do " . He is using his insecurity as an excuse to be controlling . If you were to tolerate it , it wo n’t be the last matter he ' pauperization ' you to change ' out of respect ' or to ' assist his insecurities ' . This is frog in a heating pot of pee stuff . "
“It starts with the gym. Then the beach and what to wear in public in the future. It is not your job to avoid having a life and contact with other people to make him feel secure."
u / barren - Initiative-7957
" Insert bombination light year memered flags , red flags everywhere 🚩 "
u / Ilovesucculents_24
Many painted a picture of what could be in store for her in future if she appeased his request.
The overwhelming majority of people who weighed in offered the same advice: break it off, stat.
" How about make yourself more comfortable and get a bf who is n’t an insecure little boy ? Only three calendar month in and he ’s starting to endeavor to control you . conceive of what he ’ll be demanding of you in a twelvemonth … "
u / Cute - Profession9983
" Run by from this man , do n’t walk . "
u / little - Avocado - Brain
" Your serviceman is already insure you at three months in . Red alert , red alerting , evacuate ship like a shot , knock down the chump . "
u / emmetdontpullout
Well, the OP has since deleted her post, but before she did she added in an update, sharing that she spoke with Ben, and they decided to break up so he can work on his insecurities.
Which , as far as AITAH resolutions go , seems pretty reasonable .
