" I do n’t infer how or why she would do that to me . "
I think we can all agree that going to a concert with your besties is easily one of life’s best moments, especially when that concert is The Eras Tour.
So, you can imagine the dismay one woman felt when she found out her plans to see Miss Swift with her close friend were completely shuttered, and for questionable reasons. The situation led to a friend-breakup, and now the woman wonders if she’s in the wrong.
Originally shared on ther/AmITheAsshole subreddit, here’s the story, as told by the woman (u/No_Blackberry_3107):
“Back when Eras tour tickets were released, my friend Sadie said she would grab us tickets and I’d pay her back. We made concrete plans and I was excited. I’ve been a Swiftie for years but haven’t seen her live. I had to sell my Rep stadium tour tickets back in the 2010s because my mom was dying and I needed the money to help pay medical bills. I booked the hotel.”
“This past weekend I was having a little get-together for a bunch of friends and Sadie was of course invited. At some point she pulled me aside and told me that she had news, she was leaving in September. I was heartbroken! We’ve been friends for years and I love spending time with her. I got weepy and hugged her a bunch and said that we needed to get all our thrifting trips in over the summer and hang out as much as we could.”
“Then she broke the news that as a way to bond with her sister before she left, she was going to be taking her to the Eras tour instead. I didn’t know how to react. She stood in front of me and Venmo’d my payment back.”
“She was like ‘I know you understand.’ I said that this was a sneaky move and honestly really shitty of her, and I don’t understand how or why she would do that to me. She got defensive and said that they were under her name and that she didn’t ‘owe me’ anything.”
“I was like yes, they are your tickets. Legally, you can do whatever you want. But this is still a really shitty and sneaky thing to do to your friend, knowing that there is no way I will be able to get my own tickets at this point. She just kind of shrugged and said ‘Sorry, but I figured you’d understand.'”
“I asked her to leave, and told her to please not come back for the 4th of July party next week. I said I needed to process this and that I’m really disappointed with her and how she’s treated me. This is a girl who I consoled through breakups, job losses, pet losses, etc. She looked shocked and asked if I was serious.”
“She ended up stomping off and leaving and texted me later to tell me that she’s ‘around’ if I want to apologize for making HER feel bad about taking her sister on a ‘bonding’ trip.”
She ended the story with this: “I’m honestly heartbroken that I’m going to be watching ‘my’ show on a grainy livestream instead of being there in the stadium with everyone. I was looking forward to this so much. I checked the resale sites and had a sad little cry about it. I am wondering if I am completely wrong to have just uninvited her. Is that too far? If it was in, say, a month or two, I don’t think I would have. I just need time?”
Personally, if I had paid for a ticket months ahead of time and found out I wasn’t going anymore at the last minute for a reason like this, well, I would haveverystrong thoughts about the situation.
And it seems like other Redditors did, too. Nearly all commenters agreed that the woman was “NTA,” or “not the asshole,” and that the friend wasn’t so much of a “friend” after all.
For instance, one person,u/Existing_Fox_6317, went as far as calling the friend “garbage.” “She didn’t get herself tickets and invite you as her guest, then uninvite you (which would still be lousy). She agreed to buy a ticket on your behalf with the understanding that you were paying for it. That’s how groups of people buy tickets if they expect to sit together. It was your ticket. It wasn’t hers to give away,” they commented.
Someone else,u/wrenwynn, weighed in with a similar sentiment. “The instant you paid for it, it was YOUR ticket. Not hers. The fact that it was under her name means diddly squat once money changed hands.”
Another person,u/Prestigious-Bluejay5, had the most extreme take, adding that they “might as well blow this friendship all the way up!” “Take her to small claims court for the cost of a replacement ticket,” they commented. “She paid for the ticket with the understanding that you pay her back. Hundreds of thousands of groups are getting tickets using this method to score tickets and seating together. When she claims that the ticket was never yours, hit the court with the paper trail: payment, refund, hotel reservation. Why would you pay her for a ticket and book a hotel if you weren’t supposed to go?”
