" My parents were confused as to why we were move their stuff into the garage . I told them that was where they were staying . "

So you know about the famous r/AmItheAssholesubreddit.

If not , it ’s a place for people to come and get opinions about their behavior in sure situations .

I recently came acrossone postwhere someone offered their parents their converted garage and said they could move into a nursing home if they didn’t like it. As you can imagine, the post generated strong reactions from readers, but it’s more complex than it sounds. Check it out and judge for yourself what happened:

“My parents have recently asked me if they can move in with me. I agreed and talked to my kids to let them know that if they came for a visit, the garage was taken, so they would have to stay in the house. My parents showed up on the appointed day, and the kids showed up with their families to help get them moved in. And they actually had already arranged a hotel for one family so we would not be crowded. My parents were confused as to why we were moving their stuff into the garage. I told them that was where they were staying,” they continued.

“They said that they thought they could move into my house, since I have five bedrooms. I explained that I actually have two bedrooms, since one room is my office, where I see clients, one is my private office, and one is my hobby room. The spare bedroom is mostly for my mutts. They said that they wanted to live in the house, not out in the garage like Fonzie. I said it was a take-it-or-leave-it situation. If they didn’t want the garage, they could move into a nursing home or something. They are upset that they are living RENT-FREE in a private guesthouse that is fully up to code.”

People had a lottttt of different thoughts on the situation. Some readers said no, NTA (not the A-hole). Some said definitely, YTA (you’re the A-hole). Others voted ESH (everyone sucks here), and few said NAH (no A-hole here).

For the most part, readers seemed to side with the original poster.

" Wow , your parent are spoiled . A rent - free , up - to - code flat sound pretty sweet . If it is n’t upright enough for them , then they can make other arrangements . But if you allow them into your primary house , it will become their house . And you wo n’t be able to get away from them . NTA . "

— u / YouthNAsia63

" NTA . If it ’s a converted guesthouse that ’s wholly up to code , I do n’t see a reason that they would require to go into the house , as everything you have in the business firm , you have in the guesthouse , too . My friend recently turned her shed into a beautiful guesthouse , with kitchen gizmo , a private can , the works . Her parents are currently live there , and they do n’t have a job with it . They wish the privateness , and they care being skinny to their tiddler . "

A woman relaxing on a couch

— uracil / Snoo-53572

" They wanted into the primary sign of the zodiac for you to be their cook , maid , and carer . In the guesthouse , they have to stand for themselves . "

— u / No_Noise_5733

An older man in a seat with his hand covering his face, with a woman sitting next to him

Others faulted both of them.

" ESH for not elucidate all this information before moving . "

— u / Careless - Ability-748

" Why would they not experience this before they read up with their stuff ? ESH . "

An upset woman wearing a hoodie and sitting in a chair

— u / Narrow - Moose-2565

" When someone ask if they can move in with you , they are asking to last WITH you , not adjacent to you . They were expecting to be cared for , most likely , which is normal in a portion of cultures — maybe it is in yours or perhaps not . Regardless , communicating matters . Somehow you severalize the kids more than the people moving in . "

— atomic number 92 / cyrfuckedmymum

Some said they were absolutely the one in the wrong.

" I guess I ’m going against the cereal , but YTA . Maybe it ’s because I love my parents with all my eye , and in the culture I grew up in , you take upkeep of the elder . But I can understand how your parents thought they would be survive inside your star sign with you , and peculiarly when you live by yourself and have five bedrooms , that they would get one . It ’s also understandable that they might find like outsiders . I would give anything to my parents , and it ’s not only about moving in with you rent - free . You ’re make them look like moochers . It ’s about spending the eternal rest of their time on this planet with their girl , creating retention and everything . "

— uracil / Nina_kupenda

" YTA . Not for the crack but for a complete and utter failure to communicate . And now you ’re endanger them about run to a nursing home because you do n’t realise that they need some time to get over the surprisal ? "

— uranium / Big_Alternative_3233

" YTA . I get it . It ’s your house . FIVE sleeping accommodation , and your PARENTS ca n’t have one ? Why do n’t you make the service department space your customer coming together space ? "

— uracil / becamico

But then people also defended them and the parents.

" NAH here ; OP gave them a perfectly reasonable option , but OP should have been more light about what was and was n’t being tender . "

— u / mxzf

observe : Some submission have been lightly edited for distance and/or uncloudedness .