" There are times and place to honor a lose roll in the hay one ; her wedding party to another man is not one of them . "
This is a tricky one, but I really want to know what you think about this story of a man whose fiancé made a seemingly odd request for their wedding ceremony…
Here’s the fullstory: “My fiancé and I have been together for about three years. We got engaged six months ago. We were doing some planning, and she mentioned, ‘Where do you think ‘late husband’s name’ picture could go?'”
“I was confused and asked her to clarify. She said she wanted her late husband’s picture at the wedding, and she went into more detail at my request. She wants one of the bridesmaids to hold his picture during the ceremony. As well as having his picture on our table. And when taking pictures, she wants to hold him in most pictures.”
“I told her that I didn’t want that, and while I understand he’s important to her, I’d feel uncomfortable with his pictures in our wedding, especially when they’re so prominent.”
“We got into a fight, and she yelled, ‘I can’t believe you’re jealous! He’s fucking dead! What, do you think I’m gonna fuck him at our wedding?’ I decided to postpone the wedding, and honestly, I’m thinking of calling it off altogether.”
People are fighting over this one in the comment section! UserDuePromotion287wrote: “Not the asshole. That is an extreme request. It is way overboard. She is not ready to marry you.”
Agreeing, userEquivalent-Gap5844said: “Please call this wedding off now. Your fiancé is obviously not grieving her first husband and does not value your feelings. Her insensitivity is staggering.”
“I’m a grief counselor, and this sort of behavior is one of the red flags we’re trained to watch for,” userRevKyrielsaid. “Your fiancé is not far enough along in processing her grief to be ready for another serious relationship, and since the two of you have been together for three years, she should be.”
" If I were dealing with your fiancé , I would have advert her to a therapist because she ’s in pauperism of serious supporter . Her late husband should have no part in your wedding because if he were still around , you would n’t be getting married . This is n’t about you being covetous , but about her not letting him go enough to move on . Postpone , yes , but if she does n’t get assist , you ’re going to have to cancel the marriage ceremony , or else you ’ll be the third rack in her relationship with the retentivity of her first husband . "
Agreeing, userKep63, a widow herself, recommended counseling.
" I ’m a widow of 12 years , and this just is n’t right . I understand she may want a store of him with her , but video of him in pictures of you two are just wrong on many levels ! ! There are many inconspicuous ways of having him with her . You are 100 % right about remit your nuptials and maybe cancel it , too . My idea are she is n’t ready to move on yet . She necessitate some direction to see out or some thick soul search . "
One user slightly disagreed, siding with the fiancé, saying the husband needs to recognize her grief.
" Recognize that the late married man likely holds important emotional weight for your fiancé . It ’s important to validate her feelings and understand that including him in the hymeneals might be her way of honoring his memory,"_annsophiesaid .
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