" I have epilepsy and go through a time where I was get a lot of capture , which affected my memory . He would take money out of my handbag , and when I noticed , he would lie and tell me I had spend it . "
I recently askedtheBuzzFeed Community(and scoured Reddit) for their horror stories aboutmoney ending their romantic relationships.
There were some absolutely WILD stories, and it inspired another wave of Community members to share their own. These are also complete thrill rides, so read on.
observe : This clause contains mention of domestic force , sexual ravishment , and verbal , forcible , emotional , and fiscal abuse .
1.“My ex-fiancée had a bankruptcy he never told me about. I worked at a car dealership at that time, and we were looking into buying a brand-new vehicle. He never even told me then. I asked him at the time if his credit was OK and he said it was OK. I found out later on from the finance manager at my dealership that he had a bankruptcy on his file. When I finally confronted him and asked him how he thought I would not find out about this, he said that he thought my credit was good enough to carry us and he wouldn’t have to worry about it. With me alone on the loan, it was approved five times over. As soon as he was added to the loan, they wouldn’t even look at the file.”
2.“The love of my life left me for a ‘checkbook.’ I gave up a great job and a promotion to move four hours away with him because he had two girls, and he missed them terribly. We were doing great in a two-bedroom apartment, paying rent and just barely getting by, but we were happy. His ex-girlfriend came along and threw money at him. Bought him a new vehicle and a boat, and eventually a house. I had some in savings but couldn’t compete with that.”
— Anonymous
3.“When we were dating, I disclosed how financially responsible I was by contributing to my retirement early and often, and he disclosed he, too, had a retirement account with a decent amount. I later found out that was a lie. He claimed it was because he was embarrassed he was so much farther behind than I was, so I accepted that and would say, “If YOU cover my health insurance, I’ll take care of retirement and all housing, cars, and utilities.” He refused a prenup, even though I explained this was to cover both of us and make sure he keeps what he makes, and I keep what I’ve made (we married later in life, so we already had independent finances). He was able to save and save because he really didn’t have any expenses (I had homes, cars, etc.)…investing in high-risk stocks (triple leveraged) and lost over $80K. It got so lopsided that it eventually eroded my respect because he kept saying he was going to contribute more but never did…”
“…Then, we were planning to move to a new location to be near his family, where we were finally going to be equitable in our lives, planning to contribute to the new home equally. So, we set up a joint account, and he OFFERED to put in $1K per month that would give me a little more help for big bills that may arise (homeowners insurance, property taxes). I was elated he was finally showing me he was going to contribute to the ‘us.’ It was also intended to be a way to save for the down payment as a team. Well, over the first five months, he literally drained the account and spent $13K+ over what he had even contributed.”
" I often kept a $ 10 K buffer as an emergency brake investment firm in casing an AC blew or some other emergency brake at one of the houses … so this devastated me . It illuminate how irresponsible but aweless he was to me . I tried to get over it because he observe saying this is what happens in a married couple — one may float the other at dissimilar times — but I was still uneasy because he overstate the account at one point , which I would never do . I think this was when I really began to think he was motivated by my money .
Then , I find out he ’s develop the IRS after him for non - payment of taxes for years prior to our marriage , he had blockade add to the joint invoice ( because I was upset by the drastic unfairness ) yet bear on to take over $ 4 K more out , and then stopped paying for my health insurance policy ( which was the ONLY affair he was responsible for for ) . My CFP was the first to use the condition ' fiscal infidelity ' when I learned about the revenue enhancement trouble and the draining far beyond his contributions , so I began accept back control , and I believe this was when my husband started pull forth . He would say I was too focused on finance , but a big part of me felt like I was being taken for granted and taken advantage of , and it eventually led to us breaking up . The saddest part for me was I have a major sensitiveness about financial victimisation ; my mom ( who was an oncologist ) was goldbrick by her best Quaker , who financially destroyed her — she lost her business concern and menage and die on Medicaid . Yet , it was also my greatest fright to be exploited financially , like my ma , who was such a good someone . I felt more betrayed by this ( and lots of other lie ) than if he had cheated … "
— Kerrie , 53
4.“He dodged $100K in taxes. He has been working under the table pulling in $80K a year. He is a tax fraud. His brother is very, very wealthy and pays for his health insurance… he got fake teeth for $40K and never paid his brother back. He’ll never have Social Security or Medicare, and he’s already 59. Forget it, I’m out.”
5.“I married young. We were both working basic hourly jobs. As time went by, I moved up the ladder, and he didn’t. All he was interested in was drinking and hanging out with his friends. I was paying for everything, and he was blowing money on things we didn’t need and couldn’t afford. He came home with a full-size grand piano and played it once. He bought a fancy car that cost a ton of money to upkeep. When I got a phone call from a finance company telling me my husband was at a boat dealership buying a boat (we lived nowhere near any water) and needed me to sign the papers too because he didn’t have enough credit on his own, that did it.”
6.“I majored in early childhood education and worked two jobs, plus I did babysitting on the side. He lied about working, did not contribute to household bills, and never once expressed his appreciation for me working my ass off to keep a roof over our heads, food on the table, and a car in the driveway. We didn’t live together, yet we had been talking about it, and I’m glad it didn’t happen — at 46, he has the financial responsibility of a child. Add to that, he’s spoiled, which I brought on myself by not saying no to him. We were slowly ending things with a lack of communication, and he said he wanted money for an outfit. I said no, and he stopped speaking to me for two weeks, telling me to leave him alone.”
" I name his bluff , and he demand me for money for shoes . I had the money , but I was done . I substantiate then he was a backside and , sadly , would never be who I needed and could never handle me the manner I deserved to be treated . I never returned his call again , which angered him for one reason . In addition to losing the best he ever had , he mislay his meal ticket , too .
I ’m so happy I did n’t move in with him . I sacrifice so much for him — time , finance , and mental health ; and while I believe he genuinely cared , deeply down , I knew that moving in with him would be a error that would ’ve cost me everything I know and love . He was mentally and physically scurrilous , capable of anything : theft , holding scathe , fraud , and endangering the life of my cat . He was using me , and I was too blind to see it . This realization caused me to take the air away and end our relationship . "
7.“My mom was a stay-at-home mom for years before we moved. My dad found out she had a credit card in her name and confronted her. She told him it was in case something happened to him or he ran off with another woman. Not long after the move, he left her for another woman.”
8.“I’ve been with my boyfriend for over seven years. We were best friends before we got together. We both had good jobs and good heads on our shoulders and were working toward our goals. After two years of us being together, he quit his job, and I went ahead and bought a house at 20 (in my name only). It’s now been five years since then and he still has no job. I pay for everything, and he can’t even have the decency to clean the house while I’m at work. All he does is play video games 24/7. I’m so tired.”
9.“I have epilepsy and went through a time where I was having a lot of seizures, which affected my memory. He would take money out of my purse, and when I noticed, he would lie and tell me I had spent it. Even though I knew on some level that it wasn’t true and I hadn’t spent it, I would feel completely lost and doubted myself and everything in my life. He lied about everything. I paid for everything. He lived with me on my dime and spent my money on anything and everything he wanted and told me he was the only person who loved me and nobody else cared about me. Basically, I was lucky that I had him because nobody else would put up with someone who had seizures. I eventually started taking a different medication, which stopped the seizures, and I was finally able to see clearly how blatantly he was using me. I was in that relationship for seven long years.”
10.“Finances got in the way when we had a restaurant. I worked a regular job so my salary could pay the household bills, and my husband could pay the many restaurant expenses with the proceeds from the restaurant. I gave him money to pay for our home and auto insurance, but he used it for the restaurant instead, causing us to have a lapse in our insurance while we were on a road trip. Luckily, nothing happened, but it caused a big argument because I felt I had worked hard to cover my end of the bills. Margaritas were also involved, so my mouth was uncontrollable and my words cut like a knife.”
11.“After 59 years, I divorced him. He was irresponsible and abusive in every way, including financially. He moved all his retirement income to accounts without my name and removed me as a beneficiary on everything. He had no life insurance. He never helped with household chores. He borrowed money he never repaid. He pissed away nearly $300K in marital funds. I’m left destitute as I got nothing for all the years I did everything while he lived the high life and meandered to work when he felt like it. He was physically, emotionally, and verbally abusive. He cheated on me and raped me. Diverting marital funds was the last straw. His white trash hill billy misogynistic loser ass is happy now that he has everything and I have nothing.”
— Marcia , 82 , KS
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