" That small present moment made me gain how petty she worry about what made me happy . It was then I knew we were n’t right for each other . "
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People end their relationships for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes there’s a larger, more obvious conflict that leads to abreakup, and other times, it’s more subtle hints or red flags. Either way, it can be super interesting to hear why people decided to initiate a breakup.
So, Reddit useru/Comprehensive_Soil_1recently asked, “What was a seemingly insignificant moment that made you realize that you were with the wrong person?” Here are the top answers:
1.“When I noticed I was happier and more at peace when they weren’t around than when we were together. That quiet realization hit harder than I expected.”
2.“We were at dinner, and she dismissed my excitement about a new hobby without a second thought. That small moment made me realize how little she cared about what made me happy. It was then I knew we weren’t right for each other.”
3.“I had an ex who would nitpick everything. It was mostly in a joking tone but there was a dash of mean spirit to it. One that stuck in my mind was a time I was driving, and it was raining, and she started mocking me because she didn’t think the windshield wipers were at the right speed.”
4.“They would make fun of old people. (They knew I had a soft spot for the elderly).”
5.I spent an entire paycheck at my first post-college job to get her a necklace and earrings from a jewelry shop she liked. I explained I could get it for her, but it’d be a stretch for me financially. I did it, I went on payday, got her the birthday gift she wanted. Had less than $50 for food and gas for the next 2 weeks. She opens it, sees them and says ‘Is this it? There’s nothing else?’ I wanted to die."
6.“Them throwing trash out of the car.”
7.“Her friend was being a dick to me, and my girlfriend messaged me asking me to apologize to her friend. Even when I showed her the messages, she still said, ‘It doesn’t matter, she’s upset, so apologize.'”
8.“There was a 13-year age difference between us. He was younger. He didn’t know who Iron Butterfly was.”
9.“I knew a girl from 2 years ago who was showing interest in me at the time. We were out with mutual friends, and I decided to surprise treat everyone with nachos since I was doing better financially and wanted to do something nice like that. But when I did, she just went cold and started talking about how it was a bad idea, that I put pressure on others, and that I could have ruined their plans for other things they wanted if they wanted them.”
10.“When he made fun of how I hummed when I was enjoying my meal. Seemed minor at the time, but that relationship became abusive and I left. I wish I had left sooner — even if he hadn’t become abusive, needing to insult me for how I unconsciously expressed joy is a BIG red flag.”
11.“He told a lot of white lies. I knew they would escalate over time, and at the first big lie I left.”
12.“My ex yelled at me for wanting to buy a 50-cent trinket at the supermarket, because I am ‘always finding ways to shoot up the bill.’ There was a lot of emotional, physical and psychological abuse, but this was the last straw.”
13.“When I noticed that I always talked to others about the things I experienced with my partner as, “We did this and that. We went to Italy. We had a shelter cat for a while. We live in a flat in the city.” And I realized that my partner, when talking to a new ‘friend’ of hers, exclusively spoke about her, not our, experiences (‘I went to Italy. I did this and that. I had a shelter cat. Never ‘we’)”.
14.And lastly: “‘That’s never going to happen.’ It was a small, fleeting comment, but in that moment, I felt a deep disconnect.”
Note : Some response have been edited for duration and/or clarity .
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