" I know a lady who worked at the land prison house . She was being trained to be a rectification policeman . Then , she give it all away for an convict . She was sell drugs for him and having a human relationship with him . "
Keeping secrets is difficult, but keeping secrets that can destroy relationships is even harder.
It’s a double-edged sword, deciding between holding onto the secret or revealing it, especially when a relationship is involved.
Iaskedmembers of theBuzzFeed Community, “Tell us your dark secret that could end someone else’s relationship.” Between the cheating scandals, betrayals, and family secrets, some of the responses are pretty shocking:
1.“I know that one of my friends who’s in a relationship is also in a situationship from before she and her girlfriend met. She regularly flies out to exotic places to meet her situationship andget funnywith her, but she tells her girlfriend that she’s off on a business trip!”
2.“My sister and her husband have been in a sexless marriage for almost a decade. He cheated, and she took him back after some major drama. They have separate bedrooms and live like roommates raising their kids. Two years ago, he hit on me, saying he hadn’t had sex in years and I was the only one he could trust not to tell, as I had as much to lose as he did. Needless to say, I turned him down. He still propositions me a few times a year. My answer is still no. I sometimes wonder what about me makes him think I would do that, like if he thinks my morals are that f’ed up or something…”
3.“My best friend’s stepdad, who’s been like a dad, has hit on me several times throughout the years. I never have, nor will I ever go through with it. I am scared to tell her mom because it would break her heart. And she would lose everything. I just try not to be alone with him anymore.”
— carebear27203
4.“One of mybest friendsis openly cheating on their partner, and it would destroy them if they found out. So many people know, but it’s impossible to get them to understand…and I’m very close to cutting ties with them completely. Awful behavior.”
5.“My mother’s brother graduated undergrad and proceeded to travel around the world for a couple of years before settling down in a 9-5 job. He met my aunt, they bought a house, got married, and had my cousin. My cousin is 9, and the only thing keeping them together. Last year during family Christmas, they weren’t there, so we could gossip openly. A couple of us were debating whether my uncle would fight for custody of his only child if they did divorce when my grandmother drunkenly revealed that my cousin isn’t my uncle’s only child and has another son in Jamaica he makes secret child support payments for. The once-a-year, week-long golf trip he goes on with friends every year is to visit his son, but he won’t consider bringing his son or his son’s mother here because they’re Black, and he would be cut out of my grandfather’s will. So, two relationships I could ruin there.”
6.“My wife had an online affair with a guy from her past who is married with two young children and lives on the other side of the country. Long ago, he had hopes for a relationship with her, but the feeling wasn’t mutual from her side. Some frustrations in our marriage pushed her to seek something outside of it, so she took advantage of his buried feelings and used him to appease her need for an online romantic connection. I knew what she was up to immediately and she didn’t hide it, then I found out who it was even though she wouldn’t say, and now I feel guilt-ridden that they and I know what has happened but this guy’s wife is completely in the dark. I’m constantly fighting the urge to tell her, both out of spite for this guy and because I’d want to know if I was her, but on the other hand, I just want to stay out of that mess and focus my energy on my own marriage problems. Plus, I hate to imagine their family collapsing, as I wouldn’t want that for mine.”
7.“I’ve become the gossip deposit location in multiple social groups, so I know all the dirt on everyone I socialize with. There’s nothing too earth-shattering, but most of them seem to believe they are the only ones using me as their emotional garbage can. If it were all to come out, either I would be black-balled as a scapegoat, or everyone else’s relationships would implode. The stupid thing is these ‘secrets’ are the dumbest high school drama that I didn’t put up with even when I was in high school, and we’re all mid-20s to mid-40s. Some people never grow up.”
8.“I had a very close friend have a falling out with our entire friend group (a large chunk of the falling out had to do with communication, a lot of which was a lack of it towards me), and they basically shut themselves out. Their boyfriend is still sort of in the friend group. The first time I saw him after the falling out, I had expected him to avoid me because of all the drama. Still, he ended up shit-talking his partner a LOT to me (his partner was not being a good partner to him and was very toxic towards him, and he apparently didn’t have an outlet to vent about it before this). I won’t lie and say things ended amicably with my ex-friend, but I don’t wish any harm on them (mostly because that would require me to put any more effort into a friendship that essentially drained me and caused me a bunch of unnecessary stress).”
— comfysorcerer44
9.“My friend’s husband has spyware on her devices because he’s scared her mental health is going to get her or the family in trouble. He reads all her texts and emails and acts like he doesn’t know anything, but he does. He admitted all of this to me, plus more. One of the times I brought a meal to him and the kids when she was manic and in the hospital because of it.”
10.“I know a pair of ‘best friends’ where one of them actually hates the other. To the point where she openly talks about how much she hates her best friend. I’m keeping to myself because I hate the best friend too. And they’re both moving to different countries next year. They’ll never see each other again.”
11.“I kissed and had frequent good sex with my boyfriend’s best friend for over two years now. My current relationship was broken with trust issues, man-child syndrome, neglect, feelings of unattractiveness, and blame when I wasn’t even guilty. If I’m going to be guilty of it, I might as well do it and feel attractive again.”
12.“My ex-partner was unfortunately abusive to the point where the police had been called to our home one day, which effectively ended our relationship. I spent a few nights over at a guy friend’s house to be in a safe space. Said guy friend was in a relationship of five years at the time, which had become long-distance a few months prior. He eventually made a move on me, and I was so in my own head about my own life that I agreed to have sex with him, not thinking about the hurt that I was causing another. I’ve never been able to face my shame about it or tell anyone what we did out of fear of hurting her.”
— Anonymous
13.“My best friend doesn’t know that I know her boyfriend’s been talking to and seeing other girls. And he goes back home to her every night like nothing happened. They’re about to get married, and they’re talking about kids. I only know this because my sister was one of the girls he saw.”
14.“When I was little, my dad asked me to go look for his phone in his truck while he called it on the house phone. I ran outside and found it under his seat. Right when I grabbed it and tried to answer to let him know I had found the phone, he got a text from my mom’s best friend. She had called him babe and asked him to let thedogsout when he came over later that night, including my dog. He had said he ran away while my mom, siblings, and I were out of state about a month prior. I felt sick and just gave the phone to my dad. He still, to this day, doesn’t know I saw the text, but I ended up telling my mom about it a few years after she left him. I still feel horrible for not telling my mom immediately, but she found out about it shortly after on her own anyway.”
15.“I’ve had an affair with a married man…and I would do it over again. My husband would leave me in a heartbeat.”
16.“My brother did a DNA test and found out our uncle has an illegitimate son he never told anyone about. He’s been married to my aunt for 55 years, and they have a daughter and three grandchildren. My uncle asked my brother to keep his secret. Obviously, my brother can’t keep a secret.”
17.“I know that my best friend cheated on her long-term partner repeatedly. The relationship already ended, but her partner believes it ended because I talked her into leaving him. She never came clean with him and let me take the blame. They are still close because they have a child together, and if he ever finds out about the cheating, he is going to be crushed, and it will deeply affect their co-parenting. I’m mostly keeping quiet for my goddaughter, and am also still friends with her because of my goddaughter.”
— aarushiahluwalia1331
18.“They are now a former best friend. They were going through some hard things in their own life. She and her husband got into a physical fight one night, which didn’t end well, and she made some choices after he left the house. Her husband knows of one affair and is pretty sure of a second one. However, I know she had a third, possibly fourth (that story changed every time), and a fifth emotional affair. Those are the only ones she confessed to me. Even though we are no longer friends, I only wish for her to be safe and happy. There’s way more to this, but I know if her husband ever knew everything that I did, he would leave her. Sometimes I wonder if they would be better apart, but that’s not for me to decide.”
19.“My sister had an abortion early on in her relationship with her now-husband after sleeping with another man. I’ve never told another soul. They’ve been married for 15 years now.”
20.“I know a lady who worked at the state prison. She was being trained to be a corrections officer. Then, she threw it all away for an inmate. She was selling drugs for him and having a relationship with him. Then, she was caught and charged. She’s been on probation for two years now. No one in her family but her mom knows this — her aunts, uncles, and cousins don’t know anything about this. She chose an inmate. He’s free and she is on probation. She had come into a large amount of money she spent on drugs and cell phones for him. That’s all I’m gonna say.”
mention : Some submissions have been edited for length / clarity .
