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Parents, if your kids have entered adulthood, you’ve probably been able to reflect over the years and acknowledge the things you’re grateful for that you did as a parent — as well as your regrets.

So, if your kids are grown up now, we want to know: What are the biggest parenting mistakes you think you made?

Maybe you realize you prioritized your career and other responsibilities over your family and weren’t involved in their lives. And now, you have a distant relationship with them — or no relationship at all — and you don’t know how to improve it.

Perhaps you’ve realized you were too overprotective or sheltered your kids in unhealthy ways, and now that they’re adults, you see how this has negatively impacted their lives.

Maybe you feel like you put too much pressure on your kids to live up to certain expectations regarding school and their careers, and you wish you could completely change how you parented.

Or perhaps there were more subtle mistakes you made — in your marriage or overall life decisions — that your kids had to witness, and you wish you could have done something different looking back.

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