PSA : Your parent know a lot more than you think .
We asked theBuzzFeed Community* to tell us secrets they’ve discovered their kids have kept from them, and some of the answers were shocking. Here’s what they had to say.
- We also source answersfromtheseRedditthreads .
1.“My daughter is 15 and is already very sexually active. We took her to the hospital, and we found out she had genital herpes. She said she probably got it from dirty toilet paper from her camping trip that happened last month. I didn’t believe in that, but I told her I did. So, a few days ago, I took her phone (she was in detention for something else). … I read some of her messages between her and some friend. They were talking about body counts. I didn’t know what that meant, so I googled it. So, my daughter slept with seven scrampy boys and got HERPES from one of them.”
— u / missing7yrs
2.“One year, my husband and I were having a really hard time getting up in time for work for, like, two months straight. Years later, we found out our daughter was drugging us so she could sneak out. Either of us could have died, and she thinks it’s funny she used to do that. Needless to say, she no longer lives with us and will not be allowed back if ever she falls on hard times.”
— Anonymous
3."[My daughter’s secret is] the absolutely atrocious way her father and stepmother treat her. Small stories come to surface, but she’s sworn to secrecy, and I can’t actually prove anything. She’s 11 and asks about very specific mental conditions she’s ‘heard of in movies.’ She overeats constantly and sleeps with all her lights on here… If you think I haven’t tried everything in my power to protect her, you underestimate how good some people are at putting the fear of God in their children when it comes to hiding the fact that they torture their children emotionally."
" We attempt to be her sanctuary . We do n’t approximate , and she knows she ’s good here . Legally , I ’m ineffective to restrict his access to her because I have no concrete proof , and she wo n’t peach to an unbiased source because she ’s afraid they ’ll find out . It ’s absolutely heartbreaking to watch my girl support , but I can only imagine what she ’s actually living through . "
— uranium / girlsrsoldiermedics2
4.“I’m not really a parent, but I suppose the easiest classification here would be stepmom. When wandering around my boyfriend’s ex’s mom’s property to visit his daughter (she has custody and lives with her mom), we found a noose strung up in a tree back in his daughter’s play area of the forest (she was 12 at the time). About a week or two later (or before, I don’t remember), her mom (the ex) found a suicide note back there. It was written in Crayola marker and filled with I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry. It was absolutely heartbreaking to read. We’ve all tried to rally around her — we’re definitely not a ‘normal’ family, and it’s been hard on his daughter. She’s doing better now and has a ton of great friends, but it was about the worst thing to find.”
" Since that prison term , there has been a batch of talk about being receptive about feelings , she ’s talked to school day counsellor , and her mom is adjudicate to pay more attention to her . When my bf and I are able-bodied to have her with us , we play DnD with her … and she ’s HOOKED on it ( seriously , other than homework , she spend all her time make modules and writing character backstory ) . It was a chilling discovery , that solar day in the forest , but it could have been far bad … and now , we ’re all a lot close . "
— u / ChanguitaShadow
5."[My son] (15) and his childhood bestie (15M) are doing drugs together. Yesterday, he asked me if bestie could come over this week and playGTA, a game in which, up to now, he’s never shown interest. I said I’d think about [it]. This morning, I picked up his phone and spied on him. Sure enough, there is a message to bestie asking if he can come over this week because son has ‘kush and pills, and my mom is working 9–6 every day.’ Haven’t confronted him yet. This isn’t our first rodeo with weed, but pills are pretty fucking concerning. Pretty stressed today and trying to figure out how to deal with this."
— uranium / ides_of_arch
6.“My son is very honest with me, so I’ve never felt the desire to snoop on him. Over the summer, I was looking for my tape measure, and remembered that I’d asked him to measure the space above his desk for shelving. I went into his room (he was away at camp for a couple of weeks) and looked high and low before spotting the tape measure under his desk. I couldn’t comfortably reach it because of how the desk was constructed, so I pulled the desk away from the wall. While doing so, I heard a soft thud. After I’d created enough of a clearance to shimmy between the wall to the back of the desk, I saw the gift box that we’d wrapped his birthday present in, splayed on the floor with what appeared to be an assortment of fabrics. Upon closer inspection, I saw what the ‘fabrics’ really were — a box of washed and unwashed women’s underwear.”
" I put the desk back , but could n’t embolden how the box was situated before . After call up about what to do , I determine to broach this with him when he return . More than anything else , I wanted to be sure he was n’t doing anything life-threatening ( so many thoughts ran through my mind , the strong being that he was somehow buying them from or bartering with girls at school … ) .
When he came home , I enjoin him that I demand to mouth to him . He seemed flighty , and as soon as I observe the tape measure , he started to cry . He jazz I ’d found the box and was crying not because of that , but because he thought thatI’d found out that he was slip his best friend ’s female parent ’s underclothing , from his best admirer ’s mother . I’m not trusted why he arrived at that conclusion , but such is the mind of my 13 - yr - old .
It turned out that over about a 20 - calendar month period , he ’d taken to nobble my wife ’s coworker ’s ( mother of hisbest acquaintance ) underwear from her laundry basket , hamper , and even her sleeping room drawer whenever he had a chance . There was a total of eleven pairs of underwear .
It took me a few days to have a heart - to - heart with him , and it was one of the most difficult conversations I ’d ever had to have with him . mayhap I stopped him from engross in increasingly more perverted behaviour , maybe not . I just desire that he does n’t go down a path like that again , and that his intimate proclivities manifest themselves in more natural and non - illicit ways . "
— u / heiza
7.“I found drug paraphernalia in my 16-year-old’s bedroom yesterday while making her bed. My heart is broken, and I’m not sure how to approach situation. … I’m pretty sure it’s meth. We’ve had this issue throughout my family history.”
— u / goodgirl_81
8.“My wife was emptying the trash in the downstairs bathroom the other day and noticed that it smelled a little off. So, I cleaned out the can and sprayed it down with a lovely citrusy disinfectant. The next week, I noticed the same smell the moment I entered the bathroom. However, when I turned the can over to empty the contents, there was a generous amount of foul smelling amber liquid in addition to the usual tissues and empty toilet paper rolls.”
" It did n’t take long to identify this mystery liquid . It was old piss . The only suspect was my Word , as the wife and I both utilize the bathroom in the schoolmaster bedroom exclusively . We specify up a sting operation . We both sit down restfully in the living room pretending to observe the television set when the son arrived home after school . After the common greeting , he slip past us as he usually does and went direct to the scene of the criminal offense . Since we were mind this time , we could hear him locking the threshold as carefully as he could . That was the present moment we both know for sure that our Logos was up to something … odd .
The privy doorway is well unlocked with a toothpick . In one quick motion , I picked the lock , turned the knob , and swung launch the room access to reveal the son responsible for bear on my family name , my one and only child , and the fruit of my loin , with his ass to the full exposed and his pants around his ankles , pissing justly into the trash can .
My married woman took one aspect and left the room . I stand there with a blank expression as he turned around in shock and beat to pull up his gasp . He sat on the commode and put his head in his handwriting , defy to acknowledge my existence .
' Son , ' was all I could say .
It would n’t be until the next day that he lastly verbalise to me . He said that it made him feel good for some reason he could n’t explain . … I told him that he could piss outside all he wanted , but that he was n’t allowed to take a leak on anything inside the house besides the lavatory . "
— uracil / RubbinHoods
9.“My 13-year-old son is depressed. … We recently replaced his phone, and the old one was still logged in to his accounts. Some messages popped up on the lock screen, and it concerned me, so I looked closer. He talks to his ex-girlfriend a lot (he’s never admitted to having a girlfriend) about how he’s been depressed for over a year. Now, I open the old phone once in a while to keep an eye on his mental state. I don’t care about the porn or the weed references or anything else; I just want to make sure he’s okay.”
— u / Kryyzz
10.“In March, my 15-year-old daughter started to act weird. She would overeat and wear big sweatshirts all the time until one day, I took her to the doctor for a daily checkup…and then, the doctors told me she was six months pregnant. My jaw dropped…my daughter continued to look guilty the whole ride home.”
11.“My son (35) lives at home and hid an opiate addiction for 15 years, fueled by my junkie mom. It was far more extensive than I could’ve imagined. I got wind of this when he admitted it, wanted treatment, and is now two-plus years clean and is still attending meetings. I am so proud of him, but Jesus, [kids] can be incredibly sneaky.”
— uranium / CheesecakeTruffle
12.“We had to move our kid out of a bad living situation. She wasn’t in any condition to help. So, wife and I go in and just start grabbing her stuff. We come across her adult baby fetish gear. Like, two duffel bags of it, giant onesies, binkies, diapers, etc. Wife looked at me, I looked at her, we shut each bag, and have never spoken of it again.”
— u / browncoat47
13.“One weekend, wife and I are chilling out in bed watching whatever garbage is on TV, when our youngest son (11) comes in and says oldest brother (13) is looking at porn on his tablet. So, we call for oldest son, he denies and denies, of course, so we tell him to bring me his tablet. He hasn’t learned the art of incognito browsing or clearing history completely. Going through his history, well I’ll be damned, he is looking at porn. Not just any porn, though. Some anime stuff, some adult raunchy stuff. But the real kicker was theScooby-Dooporn.”
" Fred fuckingVelma , Shaggy fucking Daphne , Velma doing Daphne , etc … so , mom forget the room to let pa and his Word talk about this … start with the usual , do n’t lie down , you ca n’t enshroud this shit from me if I go through your browsing history , it ’s okay to she-bop ( in secret of path ) , you ’re growing up , yada yada yada . eat up the conversation , give him his tablet back , but as he ’s walk out the doorway , I ca n’t but avail do my best / worst Scooby impression : ' But Shaggy ' fall out by ' Zoinks , ' ' Jinkies , ' and ' Ruh Roh , establish your porn ! ' His face got so crimson , and I just lose it , I was in binge . Now , every so often , when he starts to nab an posture with us , I just go ' Zoinks ' to him .
Kicker of it all , youngest Word issue forth into the way with , ' I was only jest , I did n’t know he really was . ' "
— u / redmaxwell
14.“My daughter was about 12 when she started exploring her body as most pubescent girls do. She was using various items in her bedroom — e.g. markers, etc. One night, she came to me sheepishly and said we couldn’t play chess for our regular Friday night game night. She said the bishop was missing. When I asked where it was, she said she didn’t know. So, we played Monopoly. The next day, she said she wanted to go to the doctor. Turns out the bishop was stuck…and not on the chessboard. Poor girl had it wedged in there somehow and had to undergo general anesthesia with the gyn retrieving it.”
" After it was off , the nurse came out to say she was fine and what did we want done with the chess game piece ? Of of course , my husband tell , ' We need it back , how else are we go away to toy Bromus secalinus again ? ! ' gratuitous to say , we never did play cheat with that board or piece again . "
