" [ There ’s no need for ] destination weddings with multi - day itineraries . You ’re asking guests to take multiple days off oeuvre , shoulder the expense of long - reach , multi - sidereal day travel , and multiple formal and semi - formal outfit for a multi - day ' celebration of your love . ' Get over yourself . "
Recently, we wrote a post where older adults of theBuzzFeed Communityrevealed theold “wedding rules” that no longer exist— and some of them think these rules should make a comeback. Their responses caused QUITE a discussion, so now, it’s your turn to agree or disagree with their opinions.
Do YOU think these old “wedding rules” should come back? It’s time to vote…
1.“Got married in 1989 when the trend was to wear pink wedding dresses.”
— 68 , New Mexico
2.“I miss getting a (guaranteed) slice of wedding cake at a wedding. Now, people do cupcakes, donuts, or any baked good that’s not a traditional wedding cake. I get that wedding cakes are expensive, but I can get a cupcake at any bakery.”
— luckycloud901
3.“It was considered rude to ask for money as a gift. They had bridal purses to conceal checks and cash, but the couple never asked for it. Now, you have people listing GoFundMe accounts for their honeymoon. My mom recently went to a wedding where there was a QR code card linked to the bride’s Venmo on every table.”
" I still find it abominably tacky personally , but I also do n’t mind giving money as it negate the need for shopping . It ’s the beggary that makes me flinch . "
— morgandemkey
4.“During my childhood in the ’60s, you invited yourwholefamily, at least all the immediate aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents, of course. All the other greats (aunts, uncles, etc.) were optional. Your parents invited some of their business partners and some neighbors. All in all, there might be 150 guests.”
— 70 , Illinois
5.“Children were never excluded.”
6.“Thank-you notes. Two of the last three wedding gifts I sent went unacknowledged. When I married in 1999, I spent at least a week writing handwritten thank-you notes for each wedding gift, describing in detail the gift sent and how we would use it in our married life. Today, even an email would be welcome. I don’t mean to patronize, but I know that people like any type of thank-you note!”
— demoncopperhead
7.“The biggest difference between weddings now and those 20–30 years ago is that weddings were much more laid back. No one cared what you wore to a wedding — even if someone wore white. The expectation was that you dressed nicely.”
— 52 , USA
8.“Wearing a black dress was offensive because it meant you were not supportive of the union and felt like it was a death in the family having lost the bride/groom to the union.”
— 31 , Canada
9.“Fifty years ago, in 1974, we never sent out save-the-date cards. We just let people know by actually talking to them.”
— pastellight93
10."[We didn’t have] destination weddings with multi-day itineraries — the time and expense ask is over-the-top. You’re asking guests to take multiple days off work, shoulder the expense of long-range, multi-day travel, and multiple formal and semi-formal outfits for a multi-day ‘celebration of your love.’ Get over yourself."
— 55 , California
11.“Gifts were opened at the reception, which was not quite so much of a party.”
— 66 , Tennessee
12.“Bachelorette parties were a night and not a trip, and when people couldn’t come, they weren’t kicked out of the wedding or friend group.”
And finally…
13.“We were also careful not to spend more than you can afford. We got married on under $500.”
— 59 , Minnesota
mention : Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity .
