" Y’all got ta stop with that . "
Keke Palmeris not here for anyone’s unsolicited parenting advice.
Yesterday, theNopestar took to Instagram with a message for those who feel the need to offer advice when they haven’t been asked for it.
“Because here’s the thing: I’ve seen it on my page, I’ve seen it on other mothers' pages, and it gets to the point where I don’t think people realize there is privilege in what they’re asking.”
Keke listed some of the things that people have suggested — from breastfeeding to baby formulas to a certain kind of car seat. “Every mom can’t breastfeed,” she noted. “Every mom doesn’t want to breastfeed. Every mom can’t afford formula. Everyone can’t afford the car seat that said it was 555,” she continued, letting her voice trail off. “Y’all gotta stop with that.”
Keke said there are simply better ways to support someone. “If you wanna help somebody pray for them, wish them well, show ‘em love,” she suggested. “Don’t go on their page using some privileged measure of what it takes to be a good mom. ‘Cause you know what it really takes to be a good mom? Loving your child.”
She added, “So the next time you go on someone’s page and try to tell them what they’re doing wrong and what they need to do better whileyourpage is private and can’t nobody critique you, be more demure. Be more mindful.”
“Stop scaring the shit out of mothers!” she wrote in the post’s caption, adding that all the advice does is create “a nervous anxiety-ridden mother” instead of “genuine community and support.”
The post comes just days after Keke was criticized for her son’s car seat in avideoof them riding together, with users commenting on everything from the straps to the placement of the seat.
One user had even randomly told Keke to make sure she’s regularly changing her baby’s diaper. (???)
While Keke didn’t directly comment on the reactions to that particular post, she did like this comment defending her.
You can watch Keke’s latest message here:
