A blessing for some , a curse for others , and a whole lot of heartbreaking confession .
People carry outaffairsfor several reasons, whether it’s because they’re simply dealing with a struggling marriage or they’re looking for a thrill.
However, the people who seek out extramarital relationships often lie about their marital status in the first place. This leaves the “other person” under the impression that their relationship is much more than what it actually is.
We recentlyaskedtheBuzzfeed Communityto share their experiences sleeping with men in relationships. Here’s what they had to say:
Note : BuzzFeed is n’t able to swear the claims below .
1.“I’ve been dating married men for 10 years now.”
2.“It’s been a few years and I still can’t forgive myself for being part of that.”
" I start up consider a hombre who narrate me he was divorced . I do n’t wish to pry early on so I did n’t crusade for exact details . He told me thing , and it all just work up towards being divorced . But he left out that there was another marriage with kid after that one . It was probably two months before I found out . He tell me their family relationship had been dead for yr , they live freestanding lives but in the same house and just coparent their very vernal kids until they could count on out a formal split . I wish I had ended it there , but I did n’t . It went on for over 2 years , during which he did formally separate from his wife . It ’s been a few years , and I still ca n’t forgive myself for being part of that . "
– Audrea , 41
3.“All I could think about was his poor wife, and why the heck I was doing what I did.”
4.“I was the other woman without knowing it.”
" In the Marines , many service appendage marry in fiat to cash in in on some comme il faut wage incentives . Some will get married acquaintance ; others will espouse other members because then they both get more money . Adultery also happens to be a penal offense . The circumstances do not count . When I found out the guy rope I was dating was married to a champion , so he could send her money , I flipped out and end things . He could n’t seem to understand why I was disturbed ! Sorry , no dick is worth the consequences , which includes a decrease in membership and a pay cut . Nope . No give thanks you . "
— shannonm49e341999
5.“My first serious relationship after my divorce was with a cop.”
6.“He told me how his wife passed away, and he is going through a rough time. For three years, I had no idea he was married.”
" I was casually seeing someone . We both were looking for something dissimilar family relationship - wise , and we agreed that if we regain someone serious , we would end what we had . Three years have gone by , and all of a sudden , he ghosted me . I figured he notice someone , and he was too scared to say anything . Four month later , he ask to come across up . I agreed just for closure .
He tell me how his married woman passed aside and that he was going through a rough time .
Excuse me ? Your WHAT ? !
For three class I had no idea he was married . I find like bullshit , this poor ma’am who was sick was being cheated on . Who does that ? "
— wittyclown6048
7.“He was married and had a whole life in New Zealand.”
8.“It was very thrilling. At the same time, I felt no remorse towards my boyfriend because it was like giving him a taste of his own medicine.”
" I finally fell for the bozo , but it did n’t really work out since his girl at the time was ' the love of his life . ' We still had communication up until 2022 . Now he is trying to contact me again . Honestly , he is the type of risk I am willing to take . He fetch out another side of me that I never felt . He lay down me finger so inviolable and weak at the same time . But the thing is , I know he ’s not seeing a human relationship with me . "
– Anonymous
9.“The kinkiest/best lovers.”
10.“I am a hotwife and have been with several married men.”
" I ’m in a situationship that has go on and off for six years . We are in it for mutual intimate use only , no feelings . His married woman is n’t into sex . I sometimes think that he has had this secret experience with me all these years and is into kinky stuff his wife knows nothing about , and he feels he ca n’t severalise her . I feel unfit for him that he ca n’t fully be himself in his marriage and that the sex is n’t good . I know he loves his wife , she just ca n’t give him the satisfying intimate experience we ’ve had . I met him on a dating site , and he ’s cheated with many others . "
11.“Me and my coworker are both married, and we hook up from time to time; we travel on business together a lot.”
12.“I was in a relationship with this guy and we were six months in when I found out he was married.”
" How ’d I obtain out?Oh , his wife show up unannounced and took a malleus to my car windowpane . It did n’t put out me at first because he did n’t act married , but over time , it got heavily and harder to ignore that . We stayed together for six years before it was clear he was n’t leaving her , and I finally go away . I get word from him eight month later , he claims they are getting divorced now … .six+ years afterward . Too previous buddy . "
13.“His wife had their baby during our affair.”
14.“Honestly, it’s refreshing to know it was genuinely casual and not having someone getting needy and catching feels.”
— effmigently
15.“We were dating for almost a year when we ended up getting pregnant, and that’s when I found out he had a woman, who he had been with for five years.”
16.“I had a backpacking affair with a guy I met while traveling in SE Asia. He had a long-term girlfriend whom he loved very much, but a month in the tropics brought us close, and we ended up sleeping together every night for a week or two.”
17.“He’s actually my ex and the love of my life.”
" When we reconnected , I was in a kinship . He was tie . I retrieve the affair was a agile one - prison term forcible fling . He want more . He said he was in an almost loveless and toxic matrimony with very little amour . I believed him and still do . I find a few interaction between him and his wife . We decided to seek to make a full - blown human relationship out of it . We were in erotic love , but he did n’t want to leave his wife because of their kid . I did n’t require to ask him to leave because I mat up he should independently choose me , and I did n’t want the possible guilt of being the catalyst that separated him from his kids .
It last over a twelvemonth , but we could n’t make it forge . I was n’t getting what I needed from him in terms of company and non - intimate affair . There was always the stress of ' What if she observe out and have the kids ? ' I could n’t find fault him for that care . He ’s an awesome dad , and I would never want him to lose his kid . He ’s still the love of my life . I love him deeply , purely , and with all of my warmheartedness . It ’s the most thoroughgoing love I ’ve ever felt . I do n’t suppose I ’ll ever sleep with anyone as much as I love him . regrettably for me , that stand for nothing in the remainder . "
18.“He was my boss, and I thought he was the most wonderful man on the planet. What I didn’t know was that he was a pathological liar and serial womanizer.”
19.And finally, “Although he was married, happily in all other areas, his wife had had some awful medical issues, and sex was very painful for her; she didn’t mind him getting sex elsewhere as long as he was safe, didn’t get attached, and always came home to her. She also never wanted to hear about his partner/partners/adventures. They moved away a few years ago, so I don’t see him anymore. His sex drive was as high as my own; the sex was phenomenal, and everyone knew where they stood.”
