" I was scared from all the mentation that were going through my head , I keep open think of the ' Red Pill ' Men and how everything he was saying aligned with that ideology . "
When 24-year-old Alexus Hernandez met up with a date at Chili’s, she didn’t know she’d be walking into the “worst date” she had ever been on.
The two fulfil on Hinge , and according to Alexus , the date was going " very well " ab initio . She told BuzzFeed , " [ We ] had dinner party and decide to have dessert ; the conversation was flow , and so far , everything seemed gravid . "
But Alexus said the vibe shifted when she asked her date if he might want to have kids one day. Sherecordeda snippet of his shocking response.
No becuase i m still so shocked , i was so take back that i jump repeat myself , like bro 😭 😭 😭 who raise these men???#firstdate#baddate
In the video, Alexus can be heard asking, “So how do you expect to have a wife and kids, yet you don’t want to really provide, yet you don’t want her to work?” Her date replies, “Well, I just think that [my future wife] should find her own way to make her money, like, for example, the government steals everybody’s taxes. Like, find a way to take your money back from the government. If you can’t do that, then you deserve to live in the streets, honestly.”
When asked if he wouldn’t give this hypothetical future wife spending money, he said he would, but solely for “the basics.”
Alexus’s date then went on to say his hypothetical future wife would “absolutely not” be allowed to “meet up with her friends and have coffee.”
Alexus was so shook by what her date said, she said she found herself nearly speechless.
" From the aerofoil , my chemical reaction was nonexistent , " Alexus explain to BuzzFeed . " I just seemed confused but internally , I was scared from all the opinion that were going through my headspring , I kept thinking of the ' Red Pill ' Men and how everything he was say aligned with that political orientation … I imagined what my life would look like with a human beings like that and how I could possibly become really sick one twenty-four hour period and , how I would necessitate his financial help for medicine , surgeries , etc . , and how that man would basically tell me , ' Sorry but that ’s not my responsibleness ' and would basically let me die . As a woman you have to recall of bad - case scenario and how your partner would react to them , would he be supportive ? Or would he get you suffer?That humans would permit me suffer , and that ’s all I was think about . "
Before we continue, here is a quick refresher on the “Red Pill” ideology:
Okay, back to the story: According to Alexus, the date ended shortly after her recording.
" The moment I stopped commemorate , I take myself out of that post . I walk to the boniface and paid for my own repast , and tipped . I did n’t look back at him or say anything . After I paid , I walked to my automobile and blocked him on Hinge and on my phonein awe that he would call me or ask why I left so suddenly . "
In response to Alexus’s video, one commenter wrote, “‘I want to be the provider but you pay for your own bill’ Do they even hear themselves?”
Another comment read, “he gave you that beautiful bouquet of red flags right up front, how thoughtful.”
This commenter aptly summed up the vibe when they wrote: “Sounds like a hostage negotiation.”
And this comment, with over 39,000 likes, called it like they saw it: “bro is not the intellectual he thinks he is.”
When asked what she would say to her date now if she could re-do the moment, her answer perfectly encapsulated the internal battle so many women face of wanting to stand up for themselves while also remaining acutely aware of the dangers of being in proximity to a potentially hostile man.
Alexus’s advice to other women is this:
" My best advice is to not nail down for less , do n’t settle for a man who does n’t align with your beliefs , and if you bump to be in a standardized berth like me , to stay calm and try not to escalate the conversation to keep yourself good . For first particular date , contact somewhere in world with a spate of people around and do n’t have him peck you up , then he will sleep with where you live . Take your own automobile in suit you need to leave at any second , tell a friend your programme and who you are receive with and if possible , share your location with them ! " She also added , " To not ignore red flags , sometimes women run to look past sure red-faced flags with the idea that they could exchange him or that he would never cover them a certain manner . Take his word for what it is and conceive that that is 100 % his fictitious character , and you ca n’t modify a man like that . "
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