" In my hometown , the sometime money would reject of the newly rich because the fresh copious need to show everyone how wealthy they were . The old - money families were unassailable enough not to show off . "
A while back, we wrotetwopostswhere people shared the subtle differences between “new money” and “old money,” which caused quite a discussion. So, here are some of the most eye-opening — and controversial — observations they shared that might change how you look at the lives of the wealthy:
1.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “Wearing head-to-toe logo mania — only buying designer items that CLEARLY have the name front and center.”
" For lesson , my roomy got a pair of Burberry cart track bloomers that are a shiny blue sports material , button up the side , with only ' Burberry ' written above one of the back pocket . first-rate cute for her , butshe was out with a guy cable wearing a Burberry button - down who made some slick comment about her being dressed down . She said , ' Well , we both got the Burberry memo , ' and he was too stunned to speak lol . "
— u / sadsincity
2.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “No conscious need to show off their wealth.”
" I conk out to an Ivy League schoolhouse as a center - form kid , and I ended up meet a lot of acquaintance from old - money families . Truly old - money families do not like about brand names and do not go out of their way to buy jazzy , branded items . Being dressed from question to toe in visible marque is consider reasonably tacky . They focus on owning quality point that are more timeless and less flashy or trendy ; many of their garment and accessory are bespoke or tailor - made , peculiarly men ’s suits . spread snobbism about wealth was something I view more in midway - family circles — the upper classes were far less insecure . "
— u / xaviira
3.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “The new money people I know are consistently awful to their hired help.”
— snowmaiden
4.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “I’m a cleaner; old money gives a Christmas tip and buys me a gift. New money does neither.”
" It ’s a unknown pattern I ’ve acknowledge in my over six age clean citizenry ’s theater , and I ca n’t explain why this happens . "
— uracil / BumblebeeAdvanced179
5.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “Telling every single person they come into contact with how much they spent on something.”
" A former employer of mine told mehe had to send in this $ 8,000 smoke from his second plane for a $ 2,000 service of process because it did n’t get hot anymore . Like , I ’m struggling to keep a ceiling over my head and food on my table , and this is what you ’re tell me ? ! "
— u / Physical - Ad-3798
6.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “Old-school hobbies.”
" Maybe it ’s a stereotype , but most of my rich friends are quite accomplished at squash , sailing , lawn tennis , fencing , crew , and equestrian sports . It ’s just a normal thing to savour in their roofy . Playing some sorting of sportsman at an elite school was sort of an prospect . "
7.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “Big new homes and expensive new cars.”
" New money buys big new home plate and expensive new cars . Old money maintain the older household and the older railroad car , but both are in pristine condition , and it is a point of pridefulness . "
— u / fabrico_finsanity
8.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “The one thing I learned from the wealthiest woman I ever knew: Everything is repairable.”
" Throwing out rugged things is a sign of fair riches . My dad was a furniture upholsterer and carpenter and made lots of money off rich old people who did n’t desire to part with things and were uncoerced to hire a professional in a field rarely learn from to fix something older than they were — rather than go to Ikea and get a replacing . "
— u / crackedtooth163
9.ALSO WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “Not understanding the stress that comes from being poor or middle class.”
" I jump between poor and in-between stratum as a kid and wound up decease to college with a clustering of rich folks . If you talked about how accent you were over pay the rip or cause to wipe out tofu and pass 60 minutes on food homework , they would n’t insult you or think less of you — butit was very exculpated they did n’t understand the worked up weight of those problems . They could get word about your stress and just shrug it off because they did n’t get what it ’s like to be financially insecure . Sometimes , they ’d even offer to serve pay for a meal , but you could see the confusion on their faces when they picked up on the fact that you were still accentuate because they did n’t realize you were now worrying about your next meal .
" Every so often , this disconnect would show up in more overt ways : They ’d tell people abused at work to just lay off their jobs , or say nipper on scholarship ( me ) to ' take a break from work and amount party ' — not realizing that you would n’t be able to bask yourself knowing that you had a theme to cease and that if you did n’t finish it , you could put down a course , fall behind your eruditeness , and be unable to wait on next semester . “Ultimately , it was a deficiency of understanding that did n’t necessarily come with any disdain or antipathy . "
— u / ThisCJWilson
10.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “New money knows what it is like to be poor or middle class.”
" So they do n’t always get along off as spoil or clueless about the veridical earthly concern . On the other hand , old money develop up in copious surroundings , and you may tell . "
— u / LushSilver
11.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “Family heirlooms are extremely important.”
" An engagement band is an old heirloom from a flush grandparent , not something unexampled and brassy . The newly moneyed received brand - new diamond stud earring for a 16th birthday ; the onetime money received Grandma ’s gold pendent that had been in the family unit for generations . "
12.ALSO WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “If they’ve attended an Ivy League school, they say the town or city where they went to school instead of the school’s name.”
" For example , if you say , ' Where did you go to school day ? ' they would respond , ' New Haven ' instead of Yale , or ' Cambridge ' instead of Harvard . "
— u / bambam2030
13.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “In the UK, a lot of new money families went to random private schools or state schools rather than the Etons, Harrows, etc.”
" Old money went to a school that was famous — normally one of the most obvious ones . "
— u / WelshBloke345
14.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “There’s a sense of classism that is different — it’s less a disdain for the poor than a disdain for poor behavior.”
" Old money has more respect for a midway - class mob who represent themselves well in behaviour and manner than a very wealthy family who make their wealth obvious . In my hometown , the old money would disapprove of the newly plentiful because the newly robust want to show everyone how wealthy they were . The old - money families were secure enough not to show off . "
15.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “People who come into money quickly can have a tendency to go overboard. They get the biggest, best, shiniest everything.”
" They are n’t satisfied with the life-style . They used to be like you . Now they ’re better . It ’s not enough to be copious — they want you to know they ’re rich . That comes across as tacky and miss in family . "
— u / ThePrevailer
16.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “They might be a real stickler for everyday expenses but still pay vast amounts for holidays or cars.”
" They believably own sure-enough real estate . mayhap a countryside mansion — that ’s probably the best symbolic representation of it . This would , of course , be in addition to the hyper - modern apartment in the urban center . They might get laid about special vineyards that make rare , but not necessarily famous or particularly expensive , wines . The same kind of niche preference may apply to food , music , whatever .
" I know some children of very rich families , and from just seeing them on the street , you would n’t think they were anything but normal teen . Other shaver can be bungle and just go for designer clothes . "
— u / Weakcontent101
17.ALSO WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “Investing. Many old money families retain their wealth by being conservative (both with money and in other ways).”
" Most of their members do n’t make exceptional money ; they are lawyers or doc earning serious but not savage amounts of money . I opine that they would n’t go on loads of expensive trip to places , but rather have a summertime home that they go to for holidays . They would go to expensive private schools and push used cars . A lot of their hobby would be based around belongings in the good places , like dressage or row — they are n’t inevitably expensive sport , but they require a river or lake or land for horses . "
— u / klrob18
18.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “Look at the car they drive. If they drive something like a Porsche or one of those hideous BMW X series cars, they’re nouveau riche or they’ve pushed their credit rating out as far as it’ll go.”
" If they force back something like , oh , an older Volvo demesne or something utilitarian and old , then they ’ve acquire money . The ones with the old money know the time value of unspoiled investment and the economic value of thing — and not just the price . "
— u / WellFiredRoll
19.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “Only people with ‘old’ money (i.e., comfortable with wealth) will drive a Mercedes station wagon or BMW wagon. They aren’t driving the car for status or conspicuousness; they want the space, but it has to be a luxury car nonetheless.”
" It ’s a promontory - scratcher . "
— lindah86
20.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “New money buys a big house in a nice neighborhood. Old money, you’ll never even glimpse the house because it’s so far back on their land.”
— Sarah P. , Facebook
21.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “I work at a marina. If a guy walks in who looks like a scruffy, unhoused man who’s been pulled backward through a charity shop, I know he is going to have a 20-plus meter boat and be minted. I also tend to find they are some of the easiest going customers; they rarely complain and tend to be really understanding about mistakes.”
" make sense they have F - you money , so no rationality to get upset about cockamamy , small thing . "
— U / S4mb741
22.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “On the other hand, as soon as someone starts telling me how much they pay to keep their boat here or start demanding my name to make a complaint, I know I’m dealing with new money.”
" raw money will try really , really toilsome to show they have moneywith branded detail and by essay to flip their system of weights around when it comes to client service . Another classic novel money riding habit is talking to us like their impost is some big talent and that we should all be fawning over them for the privilege . "
23.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “The clothing. My dad’s family is old money, and they all wear the same LL Bean gear they’ve been wearing since the ’00s. Plus, lots of high-quality fabrics they bought once decades ago and have never needed to replace, like wool cable knits and heavyweight corduroy pants.”
" I have this half - bake theory that old money spends / shop less than unexampled money . "
— u / SadieRadler
24.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “It’s the way they carry themselves. New rich will try and prove they own a place. Strut around, show off, and put others down to show how important they are.”
" sometime money is usually passably civil . They know , mysterious to their castanets , that they own the property . They know they are better than you , but they do n’t hold up it against you . "
— u / No - Garbage9500
25.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “They tend to genuinely not give a toss what you think of them. And they tell you outrageous stories as though they were discussing the price of fish.”
" Also , they can instinctively recognize other multitude who are one-time money . I really do n’t opine you could ever fake being one of them . You’d have to attempt really hard . And they do n’t try at all . They just are . "
— Anonymous
26.SCREAMS NEW MONEY: “Bragging. I have a coworker who comes from a wealthy-ish family, but I get the impression that her family hasn’t always been wealthy. She brags all the time about the things that she buys that are ‘designer.'”
— u / driveonacid
And finally…
27.WHISPERS OLD MONEY: “I have another coworker who is from a very wealthy family. I have never once heard her brag about anything. She talks with excitement about things, but she never sounds like she’s bragging. She sounds appreciative of what she has.”
" She sound thankful for all that her parent have been able to allow for her — but she never sounds like it is owed to her . "
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