" I was the amah of honor , and the groom seek to get me and another woman ' to his bed . ' Also , the female parent - in - police force was a toxic son mom and observe fix the Brigid cry . The marriage lasted two geezerhood . "
We recentlyaskedformer bridesmaids and groomsmen of theBuzzFeed Communityto tell us the moment they realized their friend made the wrong choice and shouldn’t have gotten married. Here are the shocking results:
1.“When the bride started dirty dancing and humping her male friend on the dance floor. They disappeared for an hour and came back, and she continued dancing with him. The next day at the brunch, she was not present; the groom’s mother let us know they already split up. The divorce was final the following month.”
" He is now marital to a wonderful married woman and has three beautiful child . "
— sweetturtle193
2.“I was sitting on the steps of the stage with her groom just chatting and waiting for practice to start, when another bridesmaid slowly came trickling in. He whispered to me that he was very attracted to her and didn’t know if he was making the right decision. I was so shocked and dumbfounded and wished I would’ve told my friend/the bride, but I didn’t. I kept it secret.”
" They ’ve now been separated for years . "
— sleepingminion78
3.“I have two: One where the groom gave a speech and didn’t say a single word about his new wife. It was just, ‘Uh…Thanks, everyone for coming.’ Had another friend whose fiancé made a stink about having to dance at the ceremony. Their first dance lasted about 30 seconds before the DJ invited everyone else out onto the floor to ‘end the groom’s suffering.'”
— jennifern44d6a36a7
4.“I called their house, and he told me she would probably never be smart enough for him. I didn’t tell her. They got divorced about 10 years later.”
— 52 , USA
5.“There were huge red flags at my sister’s rehearsal dinner and wedding. The groom left the church with his mother and sister after the rehearsal without her. We got to the restaurant after she discovered they had already got there, and his family had ordered food without us and then left early. Then he decided to have one last ‘hoorah’ in downtown Chicago with his groomsmen, so naturally, he showed up still drunk to the wedding that next day.”
" At the response , I keep an eye on him drag my poor sister around to encounter everyone rather of them get up to give the St. Brigid and train their congratulations — and she had just say him after the walk - in how bad her substructure injure . He also got incredibly drunk at the receipt . He flipped a switching that weekend . We were all confused and exceedingly worried for her . She register for divorce a twain of years later . She said she should have just shout off the wedding party the twenty-four hour period of , but was upset about our parents who used some of their saving to pay for her dress and wedding 😢 . "
— bluepunk888
6.“Out of seven, I’ve witnessed two marriages crumble. But I knew [they would] while they were dating, just after getting to know those two people. I can’t really put my finger on either one. It’s just knowing those two people my friends were dating weren’t ‘the ones.’ Maybe they should’ve each dated each other — my friends and their now ex-spouses. Lol.”
— clairefreeman
7.“I am currently involved in a wedding as the maid of honor. The future groom texted me, his future mother-in-law, and the other bridesmaid that he was calling off the wedding because he got upset — while driving drunk on the interstate at rush hour — that his future wife could fix a recurring issue with his car that he had failed to deal with for three months, which had caused his car to stop running abruptly.”
— sarac4894b4932
8.“My friend’s fiancée threw her engagement ring at him four or five times leading up to the wedding whenever she got upset at him. The marriage lasted less than two years.”
— davidwigton
9.“She came from a large, loud Italian family. He came from a broken home where his dad had been an alcoholic. Shortly after becoming engaged, he became more controlling — from when she could have her bridal shower to her dress and makeup. He would get upset if she stopped by her parents to discuss plans for a wedding they were paying for.”
" On the day of the wedding , he was frantic at everyone , and during the reception , he exit to attend out at the playground ball fields . The marriage lasted less than three years , but it was three years too many . "
— 63 , USA
— 31 , USA
11.“When I found out that both the bride and the groom were currently engaged to other people.”
— 42 , Michigan
12.“My now-husband and I were friends with a groom in college, and I had only met his fiancée once before the wedding. She gave me a weird vibe, but I thought it was just because she was homeschooled and devoutly Catholic, and I was the opposite, raised loosely Methodist and in public school. Then we got closer to the wedding, and her ‘quirks’ turned more to selfish, bridezilla behavior. Snapping seemingly out of nowhere at her friends and family at pre-wedding events, demanding I not continue with my weight-loss efforts so I wouldn’t upstage her, and vetoing everything the groom wanted while demanding everything she wanted.”
" The final straw was when she started ask a bunch of the invitee very personal questions about how they were upgrade ( whether or not they were religious or Catholic ) , their stance on a bunch of religious and political topics , and if their family lined up with her definition of sinlessness . Because my hubby was conceive out of wedlock to teen parent , and I was n’t conservative enough , we were going to get bring up out of the wedding party and off the guest list , along with quite a few of the groom ’s other friends and family . That was enough for him to call off the marriage ceremony a few months out . Last I ’ve heard from her , she married someone else not long after , and he is now in a much healthy relationship with a much kind cleaning woman . "
— 24 , Virginia
13.“I was the maid of honor, and the groom tried to get me and another woman ‘to his bed.’ Also, the mother-in-law was a toxic boy mom and kept making the bride cry. The marriage lasted two years.”
— 42 , New Jersey
14.“I knew it wouldn’t last when she didn’t tell me she was pregnant with the dude’s child, and she got married without telling anyone. How I look at it, her family made her get married to him because she was pregnant because they had an image to uphold.”
" I hate to say it , but she was despairing to be loved and sleep together by anyone who would show her heart . "
— summertymelalah
15.“The groom spent the entire reception offering heartfelt apologies to everyone his new wife had offended with her nasty, belittling behavior before, during, and after the service — probably 40 out of the 100 guests attending, including me and my plus-one. Don’t marry someone that upsets 40% of the people around her!”
— 42 , UK
16.“Between the dress reveal and the ceremony, they had a disagreement over something very minor. This disagreement turned into each of them blaming each other’s learning disabilities and anxieties on every conceivable (and some inconceivable) problem they had throughout the relationship. They went through with it anyway.”
" After the reception , every single Edgar Guest wish them , ' Good luck , " but we all knew how it would terminate . tight - forward 18 month , and they are divorced , both hold out back with their parents . "
— 45 , New York
17.“My friend was 19 when they met, started dating, got engaged, AND married. He was 31. Even then, to 19-year-old me, that was at least a yellow flag — both the age difference and the rush. He said she was always wrong because, I quote, ‘I’m older, so I must be right.’ He assumed my boyfriend and his cousin were secretly gay lovers because they hugged at a funeral. She specifically told him that she did not want a public Valentine’s Day proposal; she thought it was cheesy and embarrassing and told him so. Guess when and how he proposed? Crowded restaurant, February 14. She was disappointed but shrugged it off. They hadn’t kissed until the ceremony, and then the groom just went at it, slapping her behind so hard we all flinched, full breast fondles, and visible tongue.”
" Her chum would n’t be his groomsman ( the dude did n’t have enough champion or family who spoke to him still to have a wedding ceremony political party and any guests ) because he did n’t tolerate the relationship , but he did agree to be the MC at their mom ’s request . His speech communication was basically about how much he loved his sister and how wonderful she was , and the only mention the groom got was , ' and groom is lucky he deplume this off . ' I ’ve been to other weddings where you were pretty sure it was n’t become to work out ( including one where the paternity of the bride ’s unborn kid was in question , and she run off a week later with the honest valet de chambre ) , butat this marriage , there was no joy , no playfulness , and no one had a good time — just concern and anxiety about just how scratchy a life the bride was in for , and yeah , it ’s been every bit as bad as expected . "
— 40 , Canada
18.“Not my friend, but the man she married. She was cheating on him until two months before the wedding. She was ready to dump him for the guy who she was cheating with because she thought he had more earning power. But when the guy stood her up one night after all the arrangements she made to ditch her family and meet up with him, she was furious and went ahead with the wedding. She had been cheating on him the entire time they were together, with multiple different men.”
" I felt really bad for him ; he was a nice guy who did n’t merit to be treated that way . Last I know , they were still together , and that was more than 20 years ago . "
— 62 , Florida
And finally…
19.“My friend, on the morning of her wedding, told me and another friend that she was scared to get married. Not nervous or excited. Scared. Her face during the ceremony was another dead giveaway. At times, it was fear, skepticism, and mortification, with very little excitement or happiness. Their marriage didn’t even last a year before they were separated.”
— 33 , California
Note : Some responses have been edited for length and/or clearness .
